Time For A Doula

Posted on: January 18, 2017 | Childbirth

I had a crazy, busy fall last year.  I had dental issues I have been putting off for far too long come creeping up and need attention.  Attention in the form of extractions, fillings, and even a root canal.  At the same time I found out the house I was renting went under contract and we needed to move very quickly.  I also had outpatient surgery just mere days before my 4 year old son was about to undergo his own outpatient surgery.  We even took a vacation to Disney World with 15 of us just 2 months after my surgery.

If there was ever a time for a doula, this was it!

How nice would it have been to have that support with me while having a root canal?  How grand to have had the strength before my surgery, but also providing continuous support to my mom and husband during my own surgery?  How fantastic would it have been to have someone to keep me grounded while my toddler was being put under and all I could think of was my worst fears coming true?  How truly amazing would it have been, during all this chaos, to have that one person I could lean on physically and emotionally for support?

I know I have a good marriage.  I know my husband is a tremendous support system, but he can’t do it all.  He has had so much I have been asking of him lately and I can feel him growing weary.  Not growing weary of me, but in general he is drained.  He has a job that demands a lot of his time and when he is home he is trying to help as much as he can.  All I keep thinking is there should be doulas for every aspect of life available.

I don’t want a maid, a chef, or a nanny.  While any of those would have their own benefits, I really need someone to support me.  Someone I can sit and talk to about what is jumbling around in my head, but that same person could also help me off the couch to the bathroom, help make the kids dinner, and even start the dishwasher before she leaves.  Any of these things would not only have been a great help to me, but my entire family!

Is it time for a doula in your life?

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